angiehowlettconfli

At White Dove Counselling and Mediation, we often work with individuals and couples navigating high-stakes transitions, relationship conflicts, or deep personal anxieties. But high stress situations that lead to skepticism are not only found in romantic relationships. The can be ever present in work, family or community relationships, too. In these moments of high stress, we naturally look for ways to protect ourselves. We tell ourselves to "question everything," look for hidden motives, and...

Have you ever had a conversation with someone that seemed to go sideways almost instantly? You ask, “Are we okay?” They say, “Of course we’re okay. Why are you asking?” You try to get closer, and they pull away. Or maybe you’re the one who needs some space—but the other person keeps asking what’s wrong, which makes you want even more distance. Sometimes, what looks like stubbornness, neediness, avoidance, or overreacting is actually something deeper: our attachment system at work. Attachment...

"Addiction" and "enabling" are terms that have been swirling around since the closure of the safe consumption site of our community, so here is a repost to remind us of the difference between enabling and allyship, especially in the context of addiction. We’ve all been there—someone we care about is struggling, and every instinct says jump in, fix it, protect them from the fallout. But sometimes, in trying to be their life raft, we accidentally become their anchor—keeping them tethered to the...